Is John Boehner a victim of Emotional Blackmail?

First of all, everyone knows that John Boehner is an emotional creature; he can’t stop crying. We also know that as Speaker of the House, he’s expected to have a professional working relationship with the President. Such relationships, as they mature, take on an increasingly personal aspect, like golfing. Boehner is said to be a good golfer and has teamed up with Obama, receiving affirmation.

Boehner receives a moment of emotional acceptance from Obama

Boehner receives a moment of emotional acceptance from Obama

When it comes to real battles that need to be fought off the golf course, there is supposed to be give and take between a Democratic President and a Republican Speaker but when it comes to Barack Obama and John Boehner, it’s more like cave for Obama’s sake. Time and again, Boehner has chosen to alienate the American people he represents in defense of Obama’s agenda.

Every meaningful battle that Boehner could have chosen to fight has instead been met with surrender.

Some (not all) examples…

  • Debt Ceiling talks. Obama always gets what he wants and Boehner always caves.
  • Operation Fast and Furious: At every turn in this investigation, Boehner fought bringing it to sunlight. The only reason it went as far as it did was because of public pressure and the dogged determination of the House Oversight Committee and Senator Charles Grassley. In fact, when the House contempt vote came to the floor, Boehner scheduled it on the same day as the Supreme Court ruling on Obamacare.
  • Sided with Obama on Rep. Michele Bachmann’s concerns about Huma Abedin’s connections to the Muslim Brotherhood.
  • Benghazi: Boehner has demonstrated little to no interest in getting to the bottom of what happened in Benghazi. He only addresses the subject when forced to and has been against the formation of a House Select Committee.
  • The day after the 2012 election, Boehner signaled that he would help to push Obama’s agenda, saying, “We’re ready to be led”,  despite retaining a majority in the House.
  • Has signaled support for Obama’s push for comprehensive immigration reform legislation, despite such an approach being a Republican Party suicide pact.
  • When presented with an opportunity to de-fund Obamacare, Boehner has chosen instead not to, which will make it Boehnercare.
  • Syria: In perhaps his most egregious cave, Boehner has decided to side with the Muslim Brotherhood / al-Qaeda by siding with Obama on Syria. He expressed this solidarity as the anniversary of 9/11/01 and 9/11/12 approaches. In fact, his Congressional body may vote to fight on behalf of al-Qaeda on 9/11.

The prospect that Obama may be holding something over Boehner’s head (the Petraeus effect) notwithstanding, it may be much easier to demonstrate that Boehner is being emotionally blackmailed.

Emotional blackmail often takes place between couples. Then again… never mind. In any event, an article by LD Lewis and Dr. Tina B. Tessina entitled, “The signs of Emotional Blackmail” may help us to understand Boehner’s completely irrational and subservient behavior.

Right off the bat:

People in unhealthy or abusive relationships often don’t realize it is happening or feel powerless to stop it. {emphasis ours}

Consider that after the 2010 mid-terms, Boehner communicated powerlessness during an interview with Leslie Stahl on 60 Minutes when he told her he “can’t talk about” why he no longer goes to schools to see young children playing; then he cried. This was a time when he should have portrayed strength, guts, courage, and a determination to fight; he proceeded to do the opposite (see examples above). When viewing this interview with the hindsight of everything Boehner’s done since becoming Speaker, we’re able to see that he may have been expressing cognitive dissonance between having the power of the Speakership while simultaneously feeling powerless.

Back to Lewis and Tessina:

The Demand: Your date consistently won’t take “no” for an answer. When you are asked to do something, go somewhere or voice an opinion your date will not allow you to do what you want or convinces you his/her way is the only way. In actuality you realize requests are really demands. You come to the conclusion it is better just to agree than to try to get or do something you want.

Obama is known for insisting on always getting what he wants. His behavior indicates a spoiled childhood in that he refuses to take “no” for an answer. Why wouldn’t he do this in meetings with Boehner? Boehner has obviously decided that it’s better to go along with Obama than to fight him. That’s indisputable. When you couple it with what we know about Obama’s ‘my way or the highway’ mentality, this makes perfect sense.

Resistance. When you try to discuss your wants, observations, opinions and needs, does it feel like every discussion turns into an argument?

Again, when you accept the premise that Obama was spoiled – and he was – it’s easy to see him fighting with Boehner every time the Speaker raises objections or opposing viewpoints. Can you imagine any of the meetings between these two if Boehner had stood up to Obama on any of the examples listed above? Resistance is something the Left is all about. The right needs a strong opposing force and John Boehner is the exact opposite of that; this is not anecdotal; it is demonstrable.

Pressure. Your date pressures you to go along.

Obama’s charm can turn to rage on a dime. It’s borderline schizophrenic and Boehner likely chooses to deal with the charming Obama as often as he can.

Threats. Your date uses threatening or coercing tactics: threatening to end the relationship, tears, vilification, derogatory remarks, rage or badgering.

Remember when Attorney General refused to assure Senator Mark Kirk (R-IL) that no members of Congress were being spied on?
Petraeus effect?

Compliance: If you give in, you’re setting a dangerous precedent. Your date now knows you can be pressured into giving in to him or her, and this will increase the intensity of what your date is willing to do to pressure you.

The precedent set by Boehner after winning the Speakership in 2010 has led to him supporting a resolution that will align his country with Al-Qaeda. That’s just a fact.

Repetition. An obsessive person will go through these previous five steps over and over, wearing you down each time. Be sure when you say “no”, it means no.

Boehner is incapable of saying “no” to Obama and in this regard, he is just as dangerous.


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